Notes

What I thought feminism was about as a youth

1. Liberation from feminine behavioral and sexual norms

2. The freedom to self determine

3. Thinking for myself

4. Exercising agency over my life

5. Being resilient when others doubt me

6. Support from other women

Then I entered the real world and found life was exactly as depicted in Mean Girls.

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Why do we want to help those who are already successful more than those who really need it?

If you have little career capital or are struggling, chances are your friends/network aren’t that interested in helping you or even being associated with you (because of your relative status). And if you have observable career capital, people want to be in yo

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Women’s insistence on social harmony at all costs is problematic.

Yesterday, a woman pushed me too far at a social event with her pedantic interruptions. As soon as I pushed back saying she wasn’t letting me finish, she started giving that very white lady patronizing giggle and said something like “go ahead and finish sweetheart”. I then said I didn

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Female socialization hinges on the denial of female bullying

When we say “believe women” it never seems to extend to believing female on female violence. And yes, I used that intentionally: women inflict psychological violence and then act like the victim if you react. Your expression of pain as the victim of said violence gets pathologized as aggre

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You can’t be canceled if you’re seeking the Truth

I’m at an inflection point in life. My public, private and professional selves can’t be in tension like this anymore, so I’m done writing under a pseudonym. Already worked out what I’ll do if an internet mob comes for me: nothing. No apologies, no hedging. Also don’t GAF if some recruiters blacklist

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Women have been sold lies about success; some bitter truths:

1. Rules are meant to be broken, esp norms enforced by feminist women

2. Rare and valuable skills matter more than degrees

3. Alignment with people with power is essential; these people aren’t always formal managers

4. Merit is a combination of analytical ability, rare and valuable skills, relationships,

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Stoicism isn’t only for men.

While digging myself out of depression and engaging with Cal Newport’s work, I finally was ready to invite Stoic modes of living into my life. These concepts underpin much of cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapy. The idea that we can control our reactions even if we can’t control what happens stands in opposition

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I was working in DEI and diversity recruiting for tech before it took off, or the corporate equal of affirmative action. In theory, one is the beneficiary of affirmative action if one is put over the top due to race or gender, all other things being equal. I’ve also seen people get hired for their race or gender over their abilities, and it turned

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Whenever I mention women’s cruelty toward each other to women socially, I hear a reflexive blaming of patriarchy, an abstract, immeasurable, and unfalsifiable concept. This is concerning because we do have control over our own behavior toward others, and it seems leftist ideology wants to studiously ignore it. You can choose not to be a bully. We d

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