At the beginning of this process, it will feel artificial, like you’re socially flailing and trying too hard. Because you will be socially flailing, and trying too hard. Surely, you might think to yourself, everyone can tell that I don’t belong — sending out a bunch of cold emails, scheduling random meetings, asking a lot of questions. The whole la... See more
There’s only one way to start building this kind of network, which is to act with generosity towards others before you know whether it will be reciprocated. Generosity can be in the form of attention, e.g. being an unusually responsive conversational partner. It can be in the form of time, e.g. going out of your way to meet somebody where it’s conv... See more
Essentially, their professional lives are one giant positive-sum game, where everyone is eager to do favors for one another.
How do we resist the pressure to follow established playbooks? How do we embrace the periods of relentless action before results? How can we navigate periods of uncertainty, mystery, and doubt without being irritable?
If you ever feel regret about past life decisions or paths not taken, there is really only one solution that can make it all wash out and not matter in the end: just be even higher agency and go farther off the beaten path. That stuff only matters if you are low-agency!
For low-agency normies, a life-path point of divergence like getting into Harvard versus going to community college, or a certain job, can truly be permanently life-altering. But high-agency weirdos will always be pulled off the track to what compels them, no matter which track.
And I increasingly think our job, maybe our method of rebellion, is to be people who care, who have taste, who like and share and look for good things, who read and watch and look at those things on purpose instead of just staring slackjawed at whatever slop is placed between the ads they hope we won’t really notice.