If you ever feel regret about past life decisions or paths not taken, there is really only one solution that can make it all wash out and not matter in the end: just be even higher agency and go farther off the beaten path. That stuff only matters if you are low-agency!
Many social goals are best accomplished indirectly; singles parties are never the best singles parties, dinners devoted to a discussion topic rarely produce good conversation; you’ve got to cultivate the conditions, not demand the behavior
It is very difficult, highly inefficient, and non-meritorious to get ahead in life on any conventional path — there are too many people pursuing the same thing, including most people evaluating you being phonies themselves who can’t recognize talent. In contrast, pursuing small niches is much easier to get ahead in — if the whole niche ends up grow... See more
How do we resist the pressure to follow established playbooks? How do we embrace the periods of relentless action before results? How can we navigate periods of uncertainty, mystery, and doubt without being irritable?