is this womanhood?
!If you're always the emotional therapist for your friends, maybe it’s time to stop charging your soul for their insecurities.!
ok so here is something I thought I would never write. Maybe it is one of the meanest and yet truest things I ever said.
Being surrounded and being friends with insecure people is exhausting. Especially as a warm and caring
... See moreUnd alles was jetzt zählt ist, dass ich mich so schön fühle , wie schon lange nicht mehr. Mit meinen zerzausten Haaren, ohne MakeUp und in meinem viel zu dünnen Unterhemd auf diesem kalten Balkon.
Und in all dem Chaos spüre ich mich auf einmal wieder.
Ich hab mich.
Auf einmal ist es garnicht so schlimm, dass ich keine Ahnung davon habe, wo ich hinwill... See more
Und in all dem Chaos spüre ich mich auf einmal wieder.
Ich hab mich.
Auf einmal ist es garnicht so schlimm, dass ich keine Ahnung davon habe, wo ich hinwill... See more
Alles was jetzt zählt
true feelings of beauty
I also believe pleasure generated through our own power should resonate as far into the future as possible. If I eat something that tastes super-delicious but makes me sluggish and tired and sends me into a spiral of body shaming, then that was not a pleasurable experience, no matter how juicy and delicious it was. However, if I eat something fresh
... See moreadrienne maree brown, Rodriguez, • Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good (Emergent Strategy Book 1)
Pleasure as an act of self care and looking out for oneself?
To enjoy a free sexuality, you need to come to terms with the body you are living in, unless you want to wait until you lose twenty pounds, which could take forever. Or until you look younger—don’t hold your breath. Do remember: your sexiness is about how you feel, not how you look.
Janet W. Hardy • The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Think about all the different people you find attractive. They also don’t fit every standard. Think of the small imperfections that do the most for you - the smile lines, the mole on the cheek, the gap between front teeth, a round face,… allow the same for yourself
What are the little things that make your soul happy?
Write yours in the comments. ❤️
david.pograninstagram.comHaving access to things that bring us pleasure is actually not the problem. Many things are far from expensive: a walk in the park, a good home cooked meal, a conversation with. loved one over a hot cup of tea, a good book, a warm shower,… I think the problem is the shame that somehow comes with taking the time to do these things. In a society where our worth as humans is directly correlated to our productiveness, our career, our “output” the act of taking some time out of our day to do something only for ourselves and our pleasure seems incredibly selfish and as time not “used” properly (whatever properly means). And therefor living out these small moments of pleasure is actually a political act. Learning how to soothe our nerves without consuming or spending much money is such a gift. Maybe we don’t need the expensive self-care tools, the pricy pilates and cycling classes. Maybe a long walk in a park, a coup of coffee in silence and a phonically with a loved one do the same thing. They just don’t look as presentable and aesthetic. The quiet and caring self care can’t be marketed so glamorously. And so it seems less desirable - even though these things are maybe the ones that truly allow us to step out of the system for a moment and breathe.
all i wanna do is eat fruit, read articles, get coffee and a pastry, wake cuddled up to bf, bake olive oil loaf, watch touching films, have an affirming convo w another woman, call dad, walk long distances, go to the museum, write to make sense, see mom, feel sun on my face, vibe
ce n'est pas ericax.comThings that give me pleasure:
Slowly getting ready in the morning. Showering, doing my hair, putting on some makeup, listening to music while doing so.
Getting everything done that’s on my to-do list for the day
Cooking a delicious meal for myself while listening to a calm podcast —> ultimate comfort activity
DANCING DANCING DANCING
Getting paid
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Eroticism is cultivating pleasure for its own sake. It’s about bringing play, creativity, and adventure back into our lives. This doesn’t solely apply to sex but in all aspects of life.
It feels so strange and almost forbidden to give into pleasure in a world that seems to fall apart. Like if a moment of inattentiveness, of narrowing my focus down to only myelf and the thing that gives me pleasure could lead to a total collapse.
There is a sensual and textured land within yourself that you have been craving to touch and explore for eons.