The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

Cultural blind spots can show up as centrisms: couple-centrism, heterocentrism, eurocentrism. Nonmonogamy, extramarital sex, and open relationships all define themselves by what they aren’t, thus implying that they’re some exception to the “normal” relationships that “normal” people have.

“We hate boredom. We are people who are greedy to experience all that life has to offer and are also generous in sharing what we have to offer.”

It’s a very good idea for everyone to learn to live single—to figure out how to get your needs met without being partnered so you don’t find yourself seeking a partner to fill needs that you could equally well fill yourself. You might also consider experimenting with some relationships unlike those you’ve tried in the past—instead of looking for yo

The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open

Hands on skin is a great way to get into the present, into connection, and into love. Find some lotion and massage your lover’s feet. Take turns. Put aside future tripping: will this lead to sex? Who cares? The two of you are in the moment, feeling your feet.

GOAL ORIENTATION

SEX DISINFORMATION

We’ve both spent many long telephone conversations reassuring our metamours that, yes, it’s really okay, and have a great time, honey. We think your own needs should be of primary importance to you; if you really just can’t be welcoming and supportive, then simple civility can suffice. On the other hand, we also think it’s gracious to be as friendl

The Erotic Mind,