Improving Relationships

not my business to tell other people how to live their lives but if you're curious: I feel like lots of people mis-distribute their seriousness too serious about things you don't have to be serious about not at all serious about things you *ought* to be serious about 😂🤔

A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.” Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations. Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.

Imagine how much relationships would change if people went into one thinking “how can I make this person’s life better” instead of “how can this person make my life better”

The health of a relationship depends on the amount of uncomfortable conversations people are willing to have.

Many interpersonal problems stem from stupid things people say when they're angry, emotional, hungry, etc. There should be some wearable that alerts you when you're not in a good state to have a conversation, and shows why so you can explain it to the other person.

1/ Boundaries are not saying no. Or making sure something doesn't happen. Or distancing. Or even letting yourself have wants in the face of others'. A boundary is simply "If you do X, I will do Y." Good boundaries: - don't require anything from the other person - are kind for the other person - bring you closer emotionally (i.e. you find the per... See more

Conventional wisdom says "relationships matter most in life" and then conveniently leaves out that your relationship with yourself is the greatest predictor of your relationship with others.

How to survive a dark time Emergency tactics for those that need it urgently right now:

the depth of a conversation depends on how deeply seen you feel, not on the topic of conversation