not my business to tell other people how to live their lives
but if you're curious: I feel like lots of people mis-distribute their seriousness
too serious about things you don't have to be serious about
not at all serious about things you *ought* to be serious... See more
if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.