Importance of Being Earnest

When you engage actively—experimenting, reflecting, adjusting—you amplify your odds of stumbling onto something life-changing. These small discoveries often yield disproportionately large benefits, a concept known as leverage. Just as an author writes countless pages before penning a memorable line, your life's breakthroughs usually follow... See more

The best, most promising relationships are formed out of reverence and fearless love and curiosity and imagination. The most divine relationships constitute a messy, awkward collaboration between two savage souls who dare to ask for more from this world. Nothing is more beautiful than two people who dare to be wild and rapacious together! The most... See more

He who does not enjoy solitude will not love freedom.”

Earnestness is radioactive. People sense it through the screen. If you’re saying something because you believe it, people may not agree, but they will listen longer. If you’re saying something because you think it will work, they may like it, but they won’t love it. There is a difference between engagement and emotional investment. One gets clicks.... See more

Attachment is Stress, Letting Go is Peace. The tension you feel in your mind is a sign of attachment. The mind often avoids the present moment so that it can swim in the memories of the past or the cravings of the future. Even when it is focusing on the present it will often do so through the lens of comparison. Craving what is not in front of you... See more

space for wonder. space for the unknown.

space for your future to surprise you.

& that’s the tragedy of the spreadsheet life.

you can optimize a thousand things… & still miss the moment that would’ve changed everything.

this is how i personally approach this.

i clear space.

i say no to a plan.

i walk without purpose.

i let the day fine me.

all because life... See more

On role models: “I remember there was this quote Ocean Vuong said in an interview where he likened the rules of life to a guardrail where if you’re driving down a road and you’re following the guardrail, you’re just going to end up somewhere that’s already discovered on a map. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but sometimes you sit down and... See more