implementing change
If it scares me, there is magic on the other side. I cannot emphasize this enough. If there’s ever a rule for life, this is it. Look, any of us could fill a book with our fears and all the perfectly legitimate and beautifully crafted reasons for them. But they don’t serve us. Only stepping through fear does.
Kamal Ravikant • Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It
And moving yourself to the bigger pond is painful:
• It's the discomfort of being the dumbest one in the room
• It's the imposter syndrome of feeling like you'll be exposed
• It's the ego hit that comes from being at the back of the pack
• It's the embarrassment of being a beginner again
Reframe that pain as a positive. It means you're on the right
... See moreSahil Bloom's Curiosity Chronicle • The Frog Pond Effect: The Cost of Entry for Growth
Try it. Go around your day, narrating all of your choices to yourself. With everything you do, consciously say, in your head: “I am choosing to do this, because it’s the best course of action according to all the information I have available.” See if it feels true. It might — perhaps this exercise will reinforce your conviction. But you might also... See more
In praise of quitting
Here are some tactics that I find useful when I’m deep in the Moat:
- Attempt the basic move of mindfulness meditation: get curious about the tingling feeling of embarrassment in the body, rather than your mental stories about it or reactions to it. See if you can welcome it. Curiosity inverts resistance.
Cate Hall • Learn to Love the Moat of Low Status
If you want new skittles (reality), you have to update your assembly line (your personality or beliefs), and source new ingredients (different friends, new job, dump girlfriend,
Parakeet • Skittle Factory Dementia Monkey Titty Monetization
Stop acting like adjusting your mental equipment is a betrayal to your “authentic self.” By all means, tear it apart for upgrades. Install that new process, even when production takes a hit. Try that experimental ingredient even when the first batches taste like shit. Bad skittles are just R&D expenses—the cost of avoiding a lifetime manufacturing
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Okay, but really, short of traumatizing yourself, how can you learn to thrive in the Moat, so you can experience the glorious upside?
The true secret is that getting over it means resolving yourself to not really getting over it. Unless you are truly emotionally strange, being in the Moat will hurt somewhat. You will feel embarrassed. There’s not a... See more
The true secret is that getting over it means resolving yourself to not really getting over it. Unless you are truly emotionally strange, being in the Moat will hurt somewhat. You will feel embarrassed. There’s not a... See more
Cate Hall • Learn to Love the Moat of Low Status
Cringe fields are where our biggest self-improvement gains are likely to come from, because they point to parts of the self we haven't allowed to develop — there's only so much you can continue to squeeze out of your core strengths, but you can get noob gains from focusing on your core fears. This means that existential cringe is actually a signal
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