implementing change

If you want new skittles (reality), you have to update your assembly line (your personality or beliefs), and source new ingredients (different friends, new job, dump girlfriend,

Cringe fields are where our biggest self-improvement gains are likely to come from, because they point to parts of the self we haven't allowed to develop — there's only so much you can continue to squeeze out of your core strengths, but you can get noob gains from focusing on your core fears. This means that existential cringe is actually a signal

Assume everything is learnable

Most subject matter is learnable, even stuff that seems really hard. But beyond that, many (most?) traits that people treat as fixed are actually quite malleable if you (1) believe they are and (2) put the same kind of work into learning them as you would anything else.

Attempt the basic move of mindfulness meditation: get curious about the tingling feeling of embarrassment in the body, rather than your mental stories about it or reactions to it. See if you can welcome it. Curiosity inverts resistance.

Remind yourself that embarrassment is simply th

Sometimes you need to optimize how efficiently the factory burns fuel. You add meditation, education, adderall, or a hallucinogenic jungle tea that tastes like fermented compost*.* But inventing an entirely new fuel source is another massive pain in the ass nobody wants to deal with. So you keep pumping the same mental gas into the same psychologic