implementing change
And moving yourself to the bigger pond is painful:
• It's the discomfort of being the dumbest one in the room
• It's the imposter syndrome of feeling like you'll be exposed
• It's the ego hit that comes from being at the back of the pack
• It's the embarrassment of being a beginner again
Reframe that pain as a positive. It means you're on the right
... See moreSahil Bloom's Curiosity Chronicle • The Frog Pond Effect: The Cost of Entry for Growth
Okay, but really, short of traumatizing yourself, how can you learn to thrive in the Moat, so you can experience the glorious upside?
The true secret is that getting over it means resolving yourself to not really getting over it. Unless you are truly emotionally strange, being in the Moat will hurt somewhat. You will feel embarrassed. There’s not a... See more
The true secret is that getting over it means resolving yourself to not really getting over it. Unless you are truly emotionally strange, being in the Moat will hurt somewhat. You will feel embarrassed. There’s not a... See more
Cate Hall • Learn to Love the Moat of Low Status
Fear of being temporarily low in social status stops human beings from living richer lives to an unbelievable degree.
Cate Hall • Learn to Love the Moat of Low Status
Try it. Go around your day, narrating all of your choices to yourself. With everything you do, consciously say, in your head: “I am choosing to do this, because it’s the best course of action according to all the information I have available.” See if it feels true. It might — perhaps this exercise will reinforce your conviction. But you might also... See more
In praise of quitting
I know what makes people grow more reliably than anything else. It is: taking on a difficult project with some amount of public accountability. This can be large or small: a lecture series, a business, a blog, a house, a child, etc.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
Here are some tactics that I find useful when I’m deep in the Moat:
- Attempt the basic move of mindfulness meditation: get curious about the tingling feeling of embarrassment in the body, rather than your mental stories about it or reactions to it. See if you can welcome it. Curiosity inverts resistance.
Cate Hall • Learn to Love the Moat of Low Status
Learn to love the moat of low status
Cate Hall • How to Be More Agentic
Delayed gratification isn’t about surrounding yourself with temptations and hoping to say no to them. No one is good at that. The smart way to handle long-term thinking is enjoying what you’re doing day to day enough that the terminal rewards don’t constantly cross your mind.
Collab Fund • Different Kinds of Smart
Lorna K. Bailey
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