how to be

The only productive way to answer ‘What should I do now?’ is to first tackle the question of ‘Who should I become?' Kevin Kelly, Excellent Advice for Living

Shower thought: Normal behavior is forgotten. Only weird behavior survives. Nobody tells stories of when you did the expected — they only tell stories when you did the unexpected. Normal behavior costs nothing in the short term — but it disappears into the abyss. Unconventional behavior costs a social price in the short term — but the actions... See more

"Saving one life is more important than praying at the monastery," said Gelje, a devout Buddhist.

Get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger paycheck, the larger house. Do you think you'd care so very much about those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon, or found a lump in your breast? Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze over Seaside Heights, a life in w

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This is purely my opinion, but if you want to express yourself as freely as you can, it’s probably best not to start out by asking “What am I seeking?” Rather, it’s better to ask “Who would I be if I weren’t seeking anything?” and then try to visualise that aspect of yourself. Asking “What am I seeking?” invariably leads you to ponder heavy issues.... See more

“Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age in l... See more