how to be magnetic
The coolest thing is just to be super into what ever it is that you’re doing
She makes him look good by following it up with a joke about how “he’s my family member.” Talking with her is like dancing lead with a really good follow. And dancing with a really good follow is fantastic. They make you feel like their endless marvelousness is a product of your actions.
But the reason you’re not cool is because you’re trying to be cool.
First imitate, then intuit
how many people you touched > how many people you reached
Good conversation tips:
“If we had 5 mins left, what would you want to have had covered” gets to the meat earlier
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the one reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
When someone confronts you w/ a problem they have with you
What I heard was
You have to have optimism. You have to have energy. You have to create positive energy. - Jeff Bezos
when people put energy into you, attune to it, and give them harmonious energy back
nstead of focusing on issues directly, focus on the thing that is going to collectivize people best. Focus on the story arc, the thing that is going to really give people a sense of collective purpose first, and just by virtue of bringing people Together in a more positive, optimistic way, we'll create byproducts that will solve those problems.