grief

People got such a charge from seeing their names in print. Proof of existence. I could picture a squabble of ghosts ripping through piles of newspapers. Pointing at a name on the page. See, there I am. I told you I lived. I told you I was.

but my mother would not be distracted from her grief. To this day it remains a hobby.

We can find the love our hearts long for, but not until we let go grief about the love we lost long ago, when we were little and had no voice to speak the heart’s longing.

She said, “Just a bit of elder advice: The weight of secrets and deaths continue to grow as you age. So plan more quiet time for yourself. You’ll need it.” She continued: “About deaths: find people who get it and talk to them. We can’t get through it without each other, and folks outside our world don’t have a freaking clue what we’re going

Accepting death with love means we embrace the reality of the unexpected, of experiences over which we have no control.

Grief is most often unrelenting when individuals are not reconciled to the reality of loss.

It is far easier to talk about loss than it is to talk about love. It is easier to articulate the pain of love’s absence than to describe its presence and meaning in our lives.

What was it like growing up next to the room of a dead sister you never met?