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"The way I think about coaching is very much how I think about parenting. Your ability to drive change is down to the quality of your relationship, not your hierarchy.

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"When your kids are two years old, you say, 'Don't do that!' You're a benevolent dictator. But you have to be careful because when they're 25, you have very little authority over

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In practice, consistency is about being adaptable. Don't have much time? Scale it down. Don't have much energy? Do the easy version. Find different ways to show up depending on the circumstances. Let your habits change shape to meet the demands of the day.

Adaptability is the way of consistency.

Remember to PAUSE: Postpone Action Until Serenity Enters

Listen to what Shannon said about hanging out with the tricksters and the rascals and the artists — make sure to stay with those who are in on the joke, the delight, the wild creativity of this place.

emotional hygiene is not another thing to do perfectly. it’s not about becoming immune to spirals or forever calm or unshakably centered. it’s about cleaning up often enough that you don’t mistake the mess for your personality. it’s about catching the overwhelm before it becomes a worldview. it’s about building the quiet skill of knowing when your... See more

Wind extinguishes a candle and energises fire. Likewise with randomness, uncertainty, chaos: you want to use them, not hide from them.

– Nassim Nicholas Taleb