friendship

I guess if we’re talking about joy, writing, and being a fully rendered person in the world, my main sources of liveliness are so human and obvious they might seem facile: 1) loving the people I love with full throttle abandon – my guy, our kids, my mom and dad, our gaggle of brothers, my army of girlfriends. So that’s advice, maybe: make as many... See more

Idea I'd like to do in NYC: - 15+ friends (in semi-close proximity) - fractional rent payments for a small commercial space - turn it into a shared library with 24/7 access Maximize run-ins and see what friends are learning. https://t.co/IImW1Fucgl

For example, social scientists see there are strong preferences for friends to be loyal, trustworthy and warm. Additionally, researchers find there are preferences for friends who help you solve specific kinds of problems and are generous and caring with you instead of others. These preferences help people navigate making friends, given limited... See more

I’m increasingly convinced it’s much easier (and happier) to assume strangers are friends you haven’t met yet, than to assume strangers will remain strangers.

In working so hard to become independent, we forget how much satisfaction we get from the sense that others depend on us, and the meaning we can create by allowing ourselves to be dependent on others—if only we have the courage to let them help us.