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- Repression isn’t some fanciful concept, it’s a simple consequence of psychological reward and reinforcement. Things you don’t like to think about, you think about less, and slowly they become distanced from your habitual thought patterns, until they almost never enter into your mind. Therefore, you can quite easily end up in a state where you say, ... See more
from How I Attained Persistent Self-Love, Or, I Demand Deep Okayness for Everyone by Sasha Chapin
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
- When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?”, but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy: the question swiftly ge... See more
from Oliver Burkeman's Last Column: The Eight Secrets to a (Fairly) Fulfilled Life by theguardian.com
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
- Get good at asking the right questions. Elon said, the answer is usually the easy part. The hard part is asking the right questions. Questions are the only tool we have to inquire about this reality. It is our pickaxe to inspect the world we live in. It also happens to be the backbone of our cognition, we literally think in questions. Getting good ... See more
from Notion – The all-in-one workspace for your notes, tasks, wikis, and databases.
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
- “Beginner = ignorant simplicity
Intermediate = functional complexity
Advanced = profound simplicity”from 3-2-1: On simplicity, having good ideas, and acting in the face of fear
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
It’s dark because you are trying too hard.
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Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly.
Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply.
Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.
I was so preposterously serious in those days, such a humorless little prig.
Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me.
When it comfrom Learn To Do Everything Lightly by Tina Roth Eisenberg
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
- IFS is grounded in the observation that the mind is naturally multiple, housing a variety of subpersonalities, or parts . We experience this multiplicity when we feel torn between conflicting desires; maybe part of us wants to pursue a challenging opportunity, but another part fears the risk, while a third part feels exhausted by the inner debate.
T... See morefrom Enhancing Self-Therapy with Internal Family Systems and AI - by Nick Barr
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- I have noticed that when all the lights are on, people tend to talk about what they are doing – their outer lives. Sitting round in candlelight or firelight, people start to talk about how they are feeling – their inner lives. They speak subjectively, they argue less, there are longer pauses.
To sit alone without any electric light is curiously crea... See morefrom The Guardian by Jeanette Winterson
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
- “If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself, your conclusions will not be predictable.” – Kevin Kelly
from Smart Things I’ve Read Lately by Collab Fund
Joel Nessim added 1y ago
Katie’s work, and the practice of meditation, are about the practice of waking up to reality. Of choosing to look beyond the (often insidious) stories in our head that keep us miserable and stuck, and to focus on what is true so that we can be open to whatever our actual experience entails. Nothing else. This is how you set yourself free.
from Tiny Revolutions №76: Poking Holes in Our Stories by Sara Campbell
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