Fatherhood
Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their children than the unlived life of the parent.
The Unlived Life: Carl Jung’s Profound Insight into Parental Influence
Carl Jung
even when race, education, income, and other socioeconomic factors are equal, living without dad doubled a child’s chance of dropping out of high school.5
John Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis
The “unlived life” refers to the aspects of a parent’s existence that remain unexplored, unexpressed, or suppressed. These unrealized potentials may stem from various sources, including societal expectations, personal fears, or unresolved traumas.
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Kulwant Saluja • The Unlived Life: Carl Jung’s Profound Insight into Parental Influence
Between quality childcare and longer parental leaves, the bigger contributor to a healthy and productive son is a longer parental leave.
John Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis
dads’ greater tendency to take their children to parks or playgrounds, or teach them by doing, such as being a “sous-chef” with dad in the kitchen. They also missed the games dads tend to create to make otherwise boring activities fun—such as turning a shopping cart into a basketball hoop and toilet paper into a ball.
John Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis
Raising a son is real work, but we have to get this right, because if we don’t teach our sons, the world will. If we don’t teach our sons about women, pornography will. If we don’t teach our sons about friendship, they’ll live a life of loneliness. If we don’t teach our sons about leadership, they’ll be followers all of their lives. Being a father
... See moreDavid Kinnaman • The Intentional Father
They have different ways of setting boundaries and enforcing boundaries; exploring in nature; roughhousing; creating teachable moments; challenging the kids’ limits; using hangout time; and different attitudes toward teasing. Researchers have also documented dads’ greater tendencies to • walk a fine line between safety and risk-taking; • juggle the
... See moreJohn Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis
After dads’ tendency to tease, nothing creates more conflict between moms and dads than dads’ much greater propensity to roughhouse. Roughhousing often scares a mom, because her fear for her children’s safety is amplified by the appearance that dad is behaving like another kid, which mom translates as, “No one’s responsible here.” The solution begi
... See moreJohn Gray PhD • The Boy Crisis
A dad needs to be able to contribute a countervailing consideration to mom’s fear: the value of learning to explore with dad as a GPS as needed, so they don’t get too lost.