Parenting and family stuff

My advice to fathers-to-be: work smart and hard leading up to birth, build as much momentum in your meditation practice as possible, strengthen your back muscles (never skip leg day), expect to get 3x less done after birth, take time to ground your nervous system daily, and remember your primary job in the early days is supporting the mother.

The more money you make, the less likely you are to place ‘being a parent’ at the center of your identity. Part of this probably has to do with the fact that middle and upper-income people are more likely to understand their identity  as  their job, but even that doesn’t fully explain this stat. Instead, I’d argue that bourgeois parents are more

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Kids who are taught to keep a stiff upper lip become adults who hide their suffering. Appearing composed doesn't mean they aren't hurting. They might be reluctant to show vulnerability or impose on others. The emotions people express aren't always a clue to the pain they feel.... See more

A great way to think about parenting: Think of it as executing it from a place of where you’re the leader, leading from the heart with compassion, all the while supporting your child to be their best self

TO MY MIND, THOUGH, there is a third development that has altered our parenting experience above all others, and that is the wholesale transformation of the child’s role, both in the home and in society. Since the end of World War II, childhood has been completely redefined. Today, we work hard to shield children from life’s hardships. But... See more