Parenting and family stuff

Help create systems instead of goals, and show kids that they can keep exploring, finding linkages in hidden spaces. “Teach kids freedom, and that they have agency.”

Sean Fennessey concludes his Letterboxd review of Arrival by saying, “Have kids, it changes you in good ways.” I agree but would add one note. Having kids reveals things about yourself to yourself, some good and some not so good. What matters is the revelation. Never waste a revelation.

In the three years of TNF, we’ve covered all kinds of topics and I’ve spent a long time wondering exactly this is. I think there’s something special happening here: a group of dads that have congregated to redefine what fatherhood means for them, and to perhaps contribute towards a shift in the wider definition too. But the core of what this might... See more

"The way I think about coaching is very much how I think about parenting. Your ability to drive change is down to the quality of your relationship, not your hierarchy.

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"When your kids are two years old, you say, 'Don't do that!' You're a benevolent dictator. But you have to be careful because when they're 25, you have very little authority over

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In the Adolescent Brain and Cognitive Development (ABCD) project, a cohort of over 10,000 children in the US was tracked longitudinally. A 2023 analysis of the data revealed that the earlier a child was reading for pleasure, the more this correlated with higher scores on cognitive tests and lower numbers of mental health issues, even after... See more