Discipline as Encouragement

Punishment and appeasement are both short-term, reactive solutions as opposed to long-term, proactive solutions. Regardless of whether the parent or teacher chooses punishment or appeasement, the child misses countless opportunities to build competency in crucial life skills such as self-discipline, self-control, and conflict-resolution.

addressing the behavior first or only addressing the behavior is a band-aid solution, whether it’s done through punishment or appeasement. It may stop the behavior in the moment, but it never gets to the root of the issue.

Proponents of Positive Discipline believe that most misbehavior stems from mistaken beliefs or goals in a child’s attempt to achieve belonging and significance. He thinks that his belonging or significance has either been threatened or destroyed and he is acting in a way to remedy the situation. This may be because he lacks the knowledge or skills ... See more

Positive Discipline is a parenting philosophy that holds that the reason for a child’s misbehavior is a mistaken belief or goal he has while in pursuit of belonging and significance. In order to solve the behavior challenge while enabling the child to build self-discipline and responsibility, therefore, the belief must be handled first. Thus, disci... See more