Parenting and family stuff
good stuff from around the internet on raising good kids, building a family, etc.
by sari and · updated 8d ago
Parenting and family stuff
- Many of us have motivated our children with fear, guilt and shame. “I would’ve thought better of you,” or “if you want something to be scared of I’ll give you something to be scared of.” And you know, as a parent you pause and you say, does it work? Well yeah, sure, especially depending on your kids’ personality and temperament, it’s going to work ... See more
from Jim Dethmer: Leading Above the Line [The Knowledge Project Ep. #60] by Shane Parrish
sari and added 1y ago
In only three generations, children in the British Isles as well as the United States have lost their freedom to roam, their independently explorable territories shrinking from hundreds of acres to the dimensions of each child’s own back yard. This is not an accusation toward parents; their decisions reflect their judgments about their children’s s
... See morefrom The Last of the Monsters with Iron Teeth by Simplicio
simon added 5mo ago
- Social media was not created with the best interest of teenagers in mind. Instinctively, we know our kids shouldn’t invest time engaging with social media platforms because we, as adults, can see the dangers—the social comparison, constant judgments, and endless drama. Many of us are so thankful we didn’t have social media when we were their age be... See more
from How to Delay the Age At Which Kids Get Smartphones by Melanie Hempe
simon added 3mo ago
- In short, good values have to be grown from the inside out. Attempts to short-circuit this process by dangling rewards in front of children are at best ineffective, and at worst counterproductive. Children are likely to become enthusiastic, lifelong learners as a result of being provided with an engaging curriculum; a safe, caring community in whic... See more
from The Risks of Rewards by Alfie Kohn
andrea added 6mo ago
- addressing the behavior first or only addressing the behavior is a band-aid solution, whether it’s done through punishment or appeasement. It may stop the behavior in the moment, but it never gets to the root of the issue.
from Discipline as Encouragement by Samantha Joy
Stuart Evans added 10mo ago
- What I would say to the parents of Gen Alpha is: don’t let your children open accounts on social media platforms when they are still in early puberty. Delay their entry until at least 16. Prioritize their in-person interactions, and encourage them to discover who they are from real-world experiences, not manipulative algorithms.
from Algorithms Hijacked My Generation. I Fear For Gen Alpha. by Freya India
sari added 8mo ago
- I think parenting young children (and old ones, I’ve heard) is a little like climbing Mount Everest. Brave, adventurous souls try it because they’ve heard there’s magic in the climb. They try because they believe that finishing, or even attempting the climb are impressive accomplishments. They try because during the climb, if they allow themselves ... See more
from there’s magic in the climb by glennon doyle
sari added 1y ago
It’s not my job to entertain the children. It’s their job to be part of the team
from Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans a book by Michaeleen Doucleff
sari and added 1y ago
The more money you make, the less likely you are to place ‘being a parent’ at the center of your identity. Part of this probably has to do with the fact that middle and upper-income people are more likely to understand their identity as their job, but even that doesn’t fully explain this stat. Instead, I’d argue that bourgeois parents
... See morefrom The Anxious Style of American Parenting by Anne Helen Petersen
sari and added 1y ago