i asked @aweissman earlier this week “what is one framework you wish young people would stop using for decision-making?” he shared with me the concept of “ghosts and ancestors” which i havent been able to stop thinking about it he also wrote about it in 2019
Too many people spend their lives being custodians of the past instead of stewards of the future. We worry about making our parents proud when we should be focused on making our children proud.
Bruce Springsteen explained the choice presented to all parents: We are ghosts or we are ancestors in our children’s lives. We either lay our mistakes, our burdens upon them, and we haunt them, or we assist them in laying those old burdens down, and we free them from the chain of our own flawed behavior. And as ancestors, we walk alongside of them,
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