everything is a conversation
notes on being in constructive dialogue with reality, instead of staying mired in delusional rigidity
everything is a conversation
You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.
― James Baldwin
Ayishat Akanbi • Sentences That Have Shaped Me
Sometimes you know a thing in your soul,
and you can’t unknow it no matter
how much trouble it makes.
and you can’t unknow it no matter
how much trouble it makes.
McCall Erickson • Flying Sideways to Find You
life is heavy enough without you adding your own self-seriousness to it, you've got to learn to take yourself lightly, life falls into place after that
Dylano on Substack
There's an idea I think I picked up from Robert Kegan, the idea of an "evolutionary balance" in your personality structure. Or maybe it was “evolutionary truce.” The idea, as I remember it, is that your personality is made of many different dynamic forces, all pulling and pushing in different ways. For most of your life, those forces find an equili... See more
Destabilization & the Frequency of Values
Only dead things are certain. Everything that is alive dances in different degrees of uncertainty.
from laura cincera on twitter - tweet
as far as I can tell, everyone is given different values to live by. Different questions to live into. Different gods who live in their chest. Different combinations of natural concerns that balance out very differently.
River Kenna • Destabilization & the Frequency of Values
The good thing about conversations is that you realize how little you know.
The worst thing about conversations is that you realize how little you know.
The worst thing about conversations is that you realize how little you know.
Camilo Moreno-Salamanca on Substack
How to Ruin a Great Conversation:
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more