everything is a conversation
notes on being in constructive dialogue with reality, instead of staying mired in delusional rigidity
everything is a conversation
We put such pressure on ourselves to know exactly who we are and what we want in every moment; it’s okay for some things to be fuzzy. People who identify with having “so many issues” are often just people who don’t have immediate or perfect closure on the ever-evolving experience of being human.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
i've always wondered why I leave some exchanges drained and others energized. why I can instantly sense whether someone is a soul friend or not
the best way i've been able to comprehend this is that conversations are the medium by which energy is exchanged. they are composed of:
1. questions asked for the own persons benefit
2. questions asked f... See more
When drawing, the trick is to spend more time looking at the thing you are trying to draw than at your picture. This is true for writing, too.
Henrik Karlsson on Substack
conversations are coordination games but with social capital. if neither person is willing to risk any status loss by showing their cards, you end up in an awkward small talk deadlock that's most always worse for both parties
Orpheas on Substack
How to Ruin a Great Conversation:
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more