emotional intelligence

The short version is that you definitely have emotions…and not understanding them makes it very hard to understand your own behaviour.

A leading indicator of personal growth is how curious you are able to be with all your emotions - especially the ones you weren't allowed to feel as a kid.

When we feel stressed, anxious, irritated, or angry, one of the things that happens to the mind is that it shrinks down and zooms in on the challenge at hand—the stressful moment, the emotion we don’t want to feel. There’s a researcher, Andrew Huberman at Stanford, who calls this “the soda straw view” of the mind. This is the view of stress. When

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the core skill of emotional literacy is paying attention to feelings in order to determine what emotions you are currently experiencing.