Difficult work is often difficult precisely because it involves tolerating some emotional discomfort and doing the work anyway. If your emotional endurance is low, you won’t be able to follow-through on (or sometimes even start) much of the most important work of your life.
A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.”
Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations.
Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.
There is a skill of how to access information from your emotions.
Most people don’t know how.
They literally cannot read their feelings, in the same way that illiterates cannot read words.
Intellectuals are often illiterate *plus* deny it’s possible to learn to... See more