emotional intelligence

🧵UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH TOXIC SHAME: A GUIDE 🧵 This is a mega thread on the theory and mechanics behind shame, along with some techniques and practices for how to work with and clear it from the mind and body.

There is a skill of how to access information from your emotions. Most people don’t know how. They literally cannot read their feelings, in the same way that illiterates cannot read words. Intellectuals are often illiterate *plus* deny it’s possible to learn to read. 1/

Blaming and complaining are mixtures of genuine grief and defensive anger.

A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.” Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations. Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.

We’re meant to experience emotional pain so we can release it. No other reason.

#DearClient The simple answer, is that feeling beliefs are generalizations of the feeling experiences a person has had or is having. Feelings are a product 1) of the situation the person is in, 2) the vision they have of the world, and 3) their emotional brains best… Show more