A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.”
Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations.
Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.
thoughts from today:
1. if you often struggle to do things (take action, complete tasks etc) you may have a lot of unfelt anger in you. feel the anger. express the anger. you may find you have more energy to do things with
2. a great deal of your time can be spent avoiding
"The instructions for how to Do Nothing are very short - just two sentences: let whatever happens, happen. As soon as you're aware of an intention to control your attention, drop that intention."
Shinzen Young [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZ6cdIaUZCA]