two questions to ask when facing a crossroads decision
1. what is my deepest desire here? really get under it, into your body, feel it, for the soul. which decision brings me closer towards that desire?
2. which challenge do I have the capacity for to take on right now? look at this with as... See more
“If you can’t decide, pretend you’re deciding for a friend.”
Solomon’s paradox is a robust finding that we're better at solving other people's problems than our own, because detachment yields objectivity. But research has found that viewing oneself in the 3rd person yields the same detachment and objectivity. So if... See more
The numbness I felt was the result of continuously choosing to ride the gondola in the direction of someone else’s definition of success, moving further and further from my own intuition of a life well lived. When we feel internal turmoil, it’s a signal from our body to rethink our assumptions. While it’s natural to turn to everyone else — anyone... See more
“If you're ever wondering what is the right decision, ‘Should I do this, or should I do that? Should I live here, or should I live there? Should I take this job or that job?’ that just the act of choosing one and wholeheartedly committing to it makes your choice the best choice. It is your commitment itself that can make any choice the right choice... See more
Third, you possess imperfect knowledge of other people upon whom the outcome of your decision relies; and you possess imperfect knowledge of their future state. In light of the last point, especially, marriage is an act of faith.