First, you possess imperfect knowledge of yourself. You may think you want something up until the moment you’ve attained it, only to discover that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting .
“If you can’t decide, pretend you’re deciding for a friend.”
Solomon’s paradox is a robust finding that we're better at solving other people's problems than our own, because detachment yields objectivity. But research has found that viewing oneself in the 3rd person yields the same detachment and objectivity. So if... See more
Second, you possess even more imperfect knowledge of who you will be in the future. Consider, for a moment, what your life today would be if you were to dictate its future contours precisely and completely at the age of ten. Absurd!
two questions to ask when facing a crossroads decision
1. what is my deepest desire here? really get under it, into your body, feel it, for the soul. which decision brings me closer towards that desire?
2. which challenge do I have the capacity for to take on right now? look at this with as... See more