When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?”, but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy: the question swiftly... See more
“I think about decisions in three ways: hats, haircuts, and tattoos.
Most decisions are like hats. Try one and if you don’t like it, put it back and try another. The cost of a mistake is low, so move quickly and try a bunch of hats.
Some decisions are like haircuts. You can fix a bad one, but it won’t be quick and you might feel foolish for awhile.... See more
But there’s two parts to what I said about moving a step at a time. One, that it’s towards what I’m drawn to. At that point in time, with the information that I have, what feels right to me ? That’s really the only clue I need to choose my next direction. It might be what others are telling me to do. It might not be. But this rightness is... See more
"the road to freedom is a beautiful system."
-Phil Jackson - the winningest coach in NBA history - on the importance of frameworks to guide decision-making