Creating Connections
TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more
Susan Cain • How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
The Networking Secret That Only Requires Writing Four Emails A Year
fastcompany.com
What are the chances?
The precision of timing required to run into someone by chance somewhere that you’re both just passing through for a moment- the lobby, the sidewalk, the elevator- is a funny thing. It imbues meaning into what are essentially coincidences, and you’ll never know if maybe you would have run into a different person in a different... See more
The precision of timing required to run into someone by chance somewhere that you’re both just passing through for a moment- the lobby, the sidewalk, the elevator- is a funny thing. It imbues meaning into what are essentially coincidences, and you’ll never know if maybe you would have run into a different person in a different... See more
Connector Field Notes #10
The real trick is putting yourself in the same places in the same communities often enough that no matter what time it is or what route you’re taking, you’re likely to run into someone you know.
Connector Field Notes #10
in excess, self-development can create a world of self-interested individuals and that’s what I’m up against here. I’m against the continual process of self-betterment at the expense of community-betterment. I’m against participating in too much theory and not enough action. We can focus on being more loving and more empathetic and more compassiona... See more
Elle Griffin • Social Development > Self-Development
I like the way she is critiquing the constant focus on self-development that is promoted in our society and advocating for moving that focus outward.
How did you….
What’s it like….
Tell me about…
Where did you grow up?
That’s a lovely name. How’d your parents choose it?
What is the best way to grow old?
"What crossroads are you at?" At any moment, most of us are in the middle of some transition. The question helps people focus on theirs.
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?" Most people know tha
ICEBREAKERS, via The Art of Noticing by Rob Walker
docs.google.comPeople love attention, almost more than anything. Part of what makes people open up, conversationally, is the sense that someone is paying them more attention than normal. This is usually conveyed by shared body language, shared speech patterns, and granular responses— like, for an incredibly banal example, if someone tells you they used to live in... See more
Sasha Chapin • Making Normal Conversations Better
Deepening Connection
What is something about yourself that you wish more people understood?
How do you think we have influenced each other over time?
What is a memory of us that you cherish the most?
What is something you’ve never told me but have always wanted to?
How do you feel our energies complement each other?
What do you think our unique bond is t