Conversations
The art and science of having effective, joyful conversations
by sari and · updated 21d ago
Conversations
In dealing with others, one truth:
If they are not loving, they are fearful.
Any moment that someone is not acting loving, they are afraid.
Alara added 9mo ago
“Less prep, more presence”
linda added 9mo ago
- A phrase I heard recently and found useful: I agree with the idea, but I disagree with the tone. Many ideas get dismissed because they are delivered in a cocky or hostile or dismissive tone—or because of who delivers them. Separate substance from style.
sari and added 1y ago
I want more of this tone on social media:
“As always, I welcome your input, critiques and rebuttal.
What did I get wrong?”
sari and added 10mo ago
A beautiful quote from John O’Donahue, on friendship and conversations:
... See moreWhen was the last time you had a great conversation? A conversation that wasn’t just two intersecting monologues, but when you overheard yourself saying things you never knew you knew, that you heard yourself receiving from somebody words that found places within you that you th
sari and added 1y ago
- “Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.” -Haruki Murakami
sari added 1y ago
- Instead of asking: "Do you have any questions?", ask "What questions do you have?" The first almost always results in silence, while the second helps people feel comfortable asking questions.
alex and added 1y ago
The secret to hard conversations? Instead of making it confrontational, make it collaborative. Here's how to flip the script:
So instead of approaching it like "Ted, you're not hitting the click-through rates," you say:
“Hey, Ted, I've noticed that we haven’t met our target clickthrough rate. How can we solve this before the end of the week? Maybe a
... See morealex added 3mo ago
poeple will forget what you said, but they will not forget how you you made them feel
Alara added 9mo ago
Whenever there is an argument between two ideas, find the third idea.
sari added 10mo ago