i think it's so important to be unmoved by the things people project onto you. that is never a reflection of you and always a sign of where they are internally.
every person you love has a version of you in their head that is slightly wrong. when you die, that's all that's left of you, dozens of distorted echoes, none of them truly you, just fragments warped by their own biases and memories. you will never be truly known
One of the biggest lessons I learned was that I’m not being empathetic when I’m agreeing with someone’s story— I’m empathetic when I’m present with how they feel.
I can empathize with someone feeling like a victim without agreeing that they are a victim.