community is all we have
My contribution to the advice canon for making friends follows a similar vein: Think of friendship as a tapestry. It starts with its first seams—a meeting at a party, an introduction, a spark at a concert. Sometimes you’re knitting it together, sometimes one person is working overtime, and sometimes you stop and look at what you’ve made and know th
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“The intimacy that comes with time and attention allows us to be vulnerable with others. This intimacy, across a group, can become a durable network—like mycelia. We are strongest when we feel safe being soft.” To me, that network feels like security.
Cultivating Non-Romantic Intimacy
Friendship as an inner fulcrum upon which all our actions can reliably hinge, a compass to offer us direction when we’re lost, and a shield to protect us.
Kate Johnson • Radical Friendship
“Community is what happens when you do what you love together.”
– Pete Davis
By radical friendship, I mean the kind of friendship that has the potential to heal us at the very ground of our being.
Kate Johnson • Radical Friendship
Independence is a fairy tale that late capitalism tells us in order to shift the responsibility for care and support from community and state to individuals and families. But not everyone has the personal capacity, and not everyone has the family support. And the stories we tell about bootstraps tell su that it’s the fault of an individual if they
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From A.H. Reaume's essay, "Why My Novel is Dedicated to my Disabled Friend Maddy"
“Trying to see your friend in a big city is just sending a list of dates months away back and forth forever, until one of you dies.”
Rachel Connolly • Here’s Why I Say No to Making Plans Six Weeks in Advance. More People Should Try It
Why We Lost Our Sense of Community
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