closer to the truth

Instead, I outright tell them that they already know, and I ask them questions to help them remember.

All this time I was optimizing my life for exit options. Now instead, I’ve built a life I don’t want to exit.

In other words: the value of commitment is that you get something tangible in exchange for it. By making a choice, you get something Real. Whereas stewing in your potential and refusing to transform it into something Actual leaves you living more in your head—weighing and considering and thinking about all of the things you could be doing, but not ... See more

I simply have to know when I’m desperately curious and deeply suffocated by specific work situations. I’ve learned there is no “arriving” anywhere, which is maybe what the deep ache I feel is about. Seeing this as part of life helps me settle into the moments, however brief they may be.

It turns out, if you want to save a species, you don’t spend your time staring at the bird you want to save. You look at the things it relies on to live instead.

What if we stop adding layers of separation between us and the answers and reserve our energy to amplify trust and calm in ourselves?

“One of the lessons that Fawn teaches us is that doubt and fear guard the path of desire. Seen in this light, then we can try to reframe fear and doubt, accepting that these feelings no longer exist as our warning to leave, but rather, the signpost affirming we are going the right direction.” -Kathryn Miller

We live in a society that shows us many paths to status but very few to meaning.

“Part of the problem,” Tavi said, “is talking about big decisions as changing your life in one way, permanently and finally, even though life keeps going and things change again.”