instead of asking:
how can i be more like them?
ask:
how can i be more like me?
how many versions of me do i occupy? where do they live? how do they grow? what will they bloom into? what rituals do they practice? how do they... See more
That’s my big learning of the year: understanding the way someone’s interior life translates to what they make. When I first started writing this Substack, I was possessed by the sense that I had to figure out “how to do it.” Which other Substacks do I like, which other Substacks are popular, what do they write about, how do they make it work. It’s... See more
Someone who is secure is also consistent: they’re the same person in front of everyone because they’re comfortable being authentic. They don’t have to change masks between people because they don’t feel the need to impress others by pretending to be someone they’re not.