Emotions
Interestingly, the experiences that persist in this way are not necessarily the most superficially severe. The experiences that persist are just the ones that weren’t fully processed at the time, the experiences you didn’t have the time, space, or tools to get over contemporaneously.
Sasha Chapin • How I Wish Trauma Had Been Explained to Me
Nothing determines what real suffering is except your mind; there is no other test.
Sasha Chapin • How I Wish Trauma Had Been Explained to Me
Nothing determines what real suffering is except your mind; there is no other test.
Emotional regulation is the process of experiencing an emotion, allowing the sensations to pass through the body (rather than trying to distract oneself with, say, drugs or alcohol or an iPhone or food), identifying it (‘I am angry right now’ or ‘I am sad’), and breathing through it until it eventually passes. The practise of emotional regulation
... See moreNicole LePera • How To Do The Work: Recognise Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
The way to move past an emotion is to first allow yourself to fully feel it.
Only then can you let it go.
Simple to understand. But hard to do.
Much of our mind, and most of our culture, is designed to distract from feeling of emotions (h/t Alice Miller)
Here is a process that a shaman lady I know has for reckoning with suppressed anger. Interestingly I find this much more effective than the "hit things while screaming route" which actually now seems like a way to AVOID fully feeling one's rage https://t.co/28XAUD0uA2
Healing. Emotions are messengers