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Claire
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Creating spaces that are safe is admirable, and our addiction to safety (I wonder sometimes if it’s more about comfort, lack of conflict, or a desire to create set it and forget it containers) has at times devolved into long periods of agreement setting and developing a list of rules for every possible way of relating to one another, where the
... See moreadrienne maree brown • Holding Change: The Way of Emergent Strategy Facilitation and Mediation (Emergent Strategy Series)
I must have thought something was really important if it warranted saving. If you put all of my memorabilia and artifacts together, you would get the most accurate story of who I was and what I valued at any one point in my life. And you’d probably need no more than a standard issue dining room table to lay it out.
Brené Brown • Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
> We've become so conflict-averse, so desperate to maintain "good vibes" or a “safe space” that we'd rather police the tone of someone calling out harm than address the harm itself.
Lady Enolasubstack.comreminds me of the expectations from activist -or anyone who is politically active and speaks on issues- to be pure and perfect, and how they -especially marginalized groups- are expected to curate their discourses to oppressors
One morning in January, I woke up and it was like a spell had been broken the way I looked around my room and saw how dull everything was, not because it was lacking but because of how full it was of stuff.
Stuff I didn’t particularly love. Stuff with no serious meaning to it. Stuff I didn’t care about. Stuff that, if... See more
“There’s a profound reassurance in the permanent mountain of stuff. Through the decases, the pile abides, adding layer upon layer like a packrat midden, impervious to change or transition or trauma. Your mother may die. The love of your life may move away to Vancouver and never call you anymore. Cancer, coronaries, Covid or cholesterol may claim
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