Opinion | Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic

Ambivalent relationships are unpredictable. With a clear enemy, you put up a shield when you cross paths. With a frenemy, you never know whether Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde is going to show up.

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mbivalence is an invitation for rumination. We agonize about ambiguous comments, unsure what to make of them and whether to trust the people who make them.

Although frenemies are the people who hurt us the most, we’re much slower to drop them than enemies. 

We often think about relationships on a spectrum from positive to negative. But the most toxic relationships aren’t the purely negative ones. They’re the ones that are a mix of positive and negative.