the only way to live authentically is to acknowledge that you’re inevitably always making decision after decision, decisions that will shape your life in lasting ways, even though you can’t ever know in advance what the best choice might be. In fact, you’ll never know in hindsight, either – because no matter how great or appalling the consequences

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"Whether a decision is good or bad can change based on how you act after the choice is made.

You can't learn all the lessons beforehand. You learn a lot about what you want in a marriage after getting married. You discover what type of career you enjoy after doing a lot of work. And so it goes in nearly every area of life. In many cases, what you w... See more

Another barrier to change is perfectionism’s demand for certainty before action. Because perfectionism says you need to know that your goal is correct before you spend any time or energy on it, you can get stuck spending weeks and months trying to figure out if your goal is worth pursuing in the first place. The issue with making certainty a prereq

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