my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also le...

my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me". and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself

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my philosophy on ppl is something like: 1) u are fundamentally, deeply ok 2) the weird/bad stuff about you is either a) actually not a problem, or b) an important mechanism serving a vital function 3) good change is affected by gentle curiosity, not force 4) pain ... See more

Aella x.com

The reason self-love is difficult for so many is that there is a confusion about what the self is. (Also it’s required for fallibilism. Read on.) We think our conscious explicit thinky part is our ‘self’. But the voice in the head is often not very kind to us! 1/

Lulie x.com

there’s always a little truth behind every “just kidding,”

…a little knowledge behind every “I don’t know,”

…a little emotion behind every “I don’t care,”

and a little pain behind every “I’m okay!”

Always lead with empathy—be compassionate when people share their feelings with you.

#GrowWithAJ