my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me". and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself
my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me". and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself
How to Love Yourself and How to Love Another: A Playful and Poignant Vintage Illustrated Fable About Cherishing the Particular
Maria Popovathemarginalian.org
don’t believe that you have to love yourself or fix all of your flaws before you meet someone, because emotional work is lifelong and there’s no finishing line. But I do believe that you have to consider yourself worthy enough to receive love, and for some of us who put our needs last, that requires emotional growth.
Angelica Malin • Unattached: Empowering Essays on Singlehood
Instead of identifying with my unpleasant thoughts/feelings (this is me and I hate it, I suck) or fighting them (this isn’t me and I reject it), I now try to understand them as emanations of parts of me, which I then engage with in a spirit of open-hearted curiosity.