my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me". and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself
my arc rn: letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me". and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself
When we say to ourselves, “This feels bad. I need a way to fix this!” that’s the very moment when the most growth and promise lies at our fingertips. But in order to access it, we have to do the opposite of what we want to do. We have to resist the urge to analyze or find a solution or protect ourselves from our emotions.
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Heather Havrilesky • Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger
without trying to control them or doing anything to resolve them. You may feel a strong urge to start analyzing and fixing things. You need to let that be as well.
Tara Brach • Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN
When I realized that I needed to first take care of myself and stop using relationships to complete me, things changed in my life.
Ron Vitale • 30 Days of Gratitude: A Daily Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics
My real need, of course, was to realize that I didn’t need a man to fill what only felt like these insatiable emotional needs. The needs themselves were not real, but merely a reflection of the fact that I thought of myself as less than perfect. Salvation would only come through my relinquishing the thought that I wasn’t good enough. By defending m
... See moreMarianne Williamson • A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles (The Marianne Williamson Series)
Emotional pain comes from the fixation of attention on a stressful idea. There is a believed in problem or a fear related to this entity, the ‘me’. Obsessing starts. Attention is trapped in the narrative.