“Do you want to vent or do you want advice?” Just learning now, after 40 years on earth, that this might be the most important question to ask whenever a friend or loved one is upset.
This!!!!! Valuable for all types of relationships. @drunkscribewrites
instagram.comWant to help someone when they’re anxious? Ask them if they want empathy or they want a solution. Don't offer advice for how to solve a problem to someone who in that moment just wants a pat on the back.
Shane Parrish • Understanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett
“Do you want to be helped, hugged, or heard?”