
Supercommunicators

When people believe that others are trying to understand their perspectives, they become more trusting, more willing “to express their thoughts and ideas.” The “sense of safety, value and acceptance” that comes from believing a partner is genuinely listening makes us more willing to reveal our own vulnerabilities and uncertainties. If you want some
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In the wake of that attack, the organizers of the experiment decided to focus on a discussion about guns, “a classically broken conversation,” as John Sarrouf, who helped design the project, put it to me. Sarrouf runs an organization devoted to reducing polarization, Essential Partners, and has followed the firearms debate for years.
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
“Do you want to be helped, hugged, or heard?”
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
The next time you feel yourself edging toward an argument, try asking your partner: “Do you want to talk about our emotions? Or do we need to make a decision together? Or is this about something else?”
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
Dr. Thalia Wheatley, one of the foremost neuroscientists researching how humans connect with one another.
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“The single biggest problem with communication,”2 said the playwright George Bernard Shaw, “is the illusion it has taken place.”
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
When starting a dialogue, it helps to think of the discussion as a negotiation where the prize is figuring out what everyone wants. And, above all, the most important goal of any conversation is to connect.
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
He explained that one reason she felt so at ease was likely because of the environment they had created together, how Felix had listened closely, had asked questions that drew out people’s vulnerabilities, how they had all revealed meaningful details about themselves.
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
“The single biggest problem with communication,”2 said the playwright George Bernard Shaw, “is the illusion it has taken place.” But scientists have now unraveled many of the secrets of how successful conversations happen. They’ve learned that paying attention to someone’s body, alongside their voice, helps us hear them better. They have determined
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