one of my clients does exactly what we outline for him to do every week, checks in exactly when i’ve asked him to check in, and shares these thorough reflections that reveal the immense, rapid progress he is making in his life with almost no resistance from the world around him, or himself. it’s honestly incredible to see. we (i) do a lot of critiquing of pure obedience and compliance (perhaps because it sometimes feels like a foil to agency) but when you’re in an engagement where someone’s incentives are completely aligned with yours in a particular way that you have opted into (i.e. say, you’ve hired someone to help you figure out what it is that you want and to prompt you to do those things and hold you accountable for taking action towards those desires… as is the case here) - it is pretty incredible how rapidly and smoothly you can progress if you just follow the instructions of the arrangement, and don’t get in your own way it’s surprising how rare this is (complete compliance) and even more surprising how instantly and profoundly it produces exactly the desired results it makes me wonder about all of the ways we know exactly what we need to do and aren’t doing it, or just need someone to help us figure out exactly what we need to do and then hold us to it. either way what’s clear is that when you do know what you need to do, if you can manage to just do it without unnecessary avoidance, delay or excuses, i suspect that you’ll be pretty thrilled with the outcomes