The well-being and the love that are offered by their core essence are gifts they don’t feel worthy of receiving. They might even fear their intensity.

Some people are cheerful givers, but bad receivers. They refuse gifts through pride, or some negative reason, thereby blocking their channels, and invariably find themselves eventually with little or nothing.

Self-Hate Accounting: The “Insufficient Funds” Rule STUDENT: Why do I never feel that I have been good enough and generous enough? I try and try but this little nagging guilty feeling is always here. GUIDE: Good question. I look at this a lot. It’s just so pervasive in human experience. I was talking about it earlier and gave this example: You go a

Martyrs either have difficulty receiving (perhaps because they have learned “it is more blessed to give than receive” or they fear being obligated if they take anything from others),

“The problem with hoarding is you end up living off your reserves. Eventually, you’ll become stale. If you give away everything you have, you are left with nothing. This forces you to look, to be aware, to replenish. . . . Somehow the more you give away, the more comes back to you.” —Paul Arden