if there is judgment, it is coming from ego. From center, from compassion, there is no judgment. There is no element of wrong or bad. You don’t have to be fooled any longer. Ego will be the one who’s saying, “Well, yeah, but that isn’t a judgment. That’s just clarity of perception. I’m actually centered and I can see that from a centered place,

how it is for you right now is miserable. So you get to experience feeling miserable. And if all you’re being is miserable, miserable is not bad. It’s only when you’re miserable and hating miserable that it’s really hell.

There’s nothing to do but let go of the idea that you have any control.

We Have A Choice. We can live our lives trying to conform to some nebulous standard, or we can live our lives seeing how everything works. When we step back and look at it that way, it is obvious that the attitude of fascination is the only intelligent one to bring to anything.

Every time I try to fix myself, I compound the problem. When the conditioning can just come up and pass away, it loses power, it loses momentum. In this way, sitting still with it dissolves it, burns it away, strips it away.

If your parents could love you the way you want to be loved, it would have happened already. Only you know how you want and need to be loved. Only you can love you the way you want and need to be loved.

Taking responsibility is not taking blame. It’s not your fault. It’s not someone else’s fault. It’s not anyone’s fault. “FAULT” MISSES THE POINT. This is how it is. This is your best opportunity to turn it around.*

We look for things that were done to us because that makes us The Victim. When we are The Victim, things are not our fault and we don’t have to take responsibility. We can point to all these reasons that we are how we are.

When the Buddha wanted to find out how suffering happened and how to end it, and discovered that no one could tell him, his response was to find out for himself.