The Helping Paradox
The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you.
The less you need help, the easier it is to get.
People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Alex Broganx.comThe Helping Paradox The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you. The less you need help, the easier it is to get. People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Being afraid to ask for help is a poor person’s trait. One of the biggest differences between the wealthy and non-wealthy, from my observations, is that the wealthy don’t mind asking for anything, convenient or not, because they don’t attach guilt, shame, or a sense of debt to it.
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Xx.comHelp-seekers dramatically underestimate how willing others are to help and overestimate how awkward the ask will be. Helpers? The opposite. They predict the ask is coming and that it’s fine
Dr. Todd Kashdan • Stingy Compassion, Quiet Misery, and High Achievers
“I used to have horrible cars, because I never had money, so I’d always end up broken down on the highway. When I stood there trying to flag someone down, nobody stopped. But when I pushed my own car, other drivers would get out and push with me. If you want help, help yourself — people like to see that”
— Chris Rock