The Helping Paradox
The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you.
The less you need help, the easier it is to get.
People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Alex Broganx.comThe Helping Paradox The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you. The less you need help, the easier it is to get. People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
in one context people are happy to share and redistribute wealth, but in another, they definitely aren’t.
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Even receiving what they need from someone else is seen as a threat because that might lead to depending on that person.
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It’s too bad, because multiple research studies show that, if you ask someone for help, you honor them, you deepen the relationship, and you create an opportunity for them to be giving, which we humans love doing.