The Helping Paradox
The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you.
The less you need help, the easier it is to get.
People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Alex Broganx.comThe Helping Paradox The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you. The less you need help, the easier it is to get. People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Of course, a real hero actually does rescue others, so how is this different? Well, it’s different in that a real hero is rescuing others because they need it, whereas the Heroic Rescuer is rescuing others because he needs it. He not only needs to…
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Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Here’s the wrinkle: it’s tough to ask weak ties for help. Although they’re the faster route to new leads, we don’t always feel comfortable reaching out to them. The lack of mutual trust between acquaintances creates a psychological barrier.
Adam M. Grant Ph.D. • Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success
Suffering when helping others is not necessarily proof of unusual goodness; it is often just a sign of incompetence. Sometimes risks are taken and may result in personal pain, damage or destruction, but this is usually due to lack of skill.
Avi Sion • More Meditations
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Mark Manson • 20 Paradoxes That Are True | Mark Manson
Often it is our own sense that we are undeserving of help that has immobilized us. Whether it’s in the arts, at work, or in our relationships, we often resist asking not only because we’re afraid of rejection but also because we don’t even think we deserve what we’re asking for.