The Helping Paradox
The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you.
The less you need help, the easier it is to get.
People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
Alex Broganx.comThe Helping Paradox The more you need help with something, the less others want to give it to you. The less you need help, the easier it is to get. People want to help those who have first helped themselves—or who display the appearance of self-sufficiency.
It seems to me that egos emerge in order to take care of our needs in contexts where we don’t trust the strategy of surrendering to the We. The paradox is that the presence of ego is often one of the main things in the way of the We being able to take care of our needs.
Perhaps the most counterintuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
Kevin Kelly • 68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice
The Loudest Alarm is Probably False
A curious thing I've noticed: among the friends whose inner monologues I get to hear, the most self-sacrificing ones are frequently worried they are being too selfish, the loudest ones are constantly afraid they are not being heard, the most introverted ones are regularly terrified that they're claiming more than
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