The next time you’re in the middle of a stressful situation, ask yourself, “Am I focusing on the problem or the solution?”

You might, for example, choose to quietly tell yourself, “I will stay with my feelings right now instead of trying to avoid them.” You can silently say this sentence to yourself again and again in your mind, say it out loud, write it out in a journal, or even share your sentiment with someone close. The point is to bring your actions out into the o

Stop simply pause and try not to let yourself be overcome by emotion Take a breath breathe deeply to keep your heart rate in check, and notice your breathing in a conscious effort to keep it slow and measured Observe ask what is going through your mind, determine where your focus lies, discover what you are reacting to, and try to name the feelings