Sometimes the reason you can’t find people you resonate with is because you misread the ones you meet
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Sometimes the reason you can’t find people you resonate with is because you misread the ones you meet
Dreamy But Disconnected
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“I found a piece you wrote in the footnote of a book that I admire.” In other words, it took effort for us to find each other. And much like an inefficient light bulb gives off heat, folk search algorithms have the byproduct of context.
In the end, maybe that’s the only definition of authenticity that doesn’t fall apart under close inspection: not a... See more
In the end, maybe that’s the only definition of authenticity that doesn’t fall apart under close inspection: not a... See more
Elan Ullendorff • Folk search engines
even in cases where we’re devoted to a person, and know a lot about them, it’s still possible to not see them. You can be loved by a person yet not be known by them.
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the tr
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“OTHER PEOPLE It’s hard to accept that other people’s lives are as full and real and now as yours. You look at someone and sort of think, against your intellectual knowing better, that they have a less complex life, they’re able to flit about, their lives aren’t clogged with the same kind of pressing deadlines, they don’t really have cousins like y
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