Why We Fear Getting What We Want
I call this kind of thinking the “fallacy of enough”—this idea that, once we reach some sort of plateau (whether wealth, achievement, or happiness), a great calm will overcome us. In reality, I have found that once we reach our goals, fear sets in. We immediately start to worry we will lose everything we worked so hard to gain in the first place,
... See moreVicki Robin • Taking Stock
A lot of people end up hoarding all manner of “toast” in Square Four. Exhausted and fearful after their long trip through the change cycle, they cling desperately to the good things that are finally coming into their lives: money, relationships, attention, power. They don’t delegate authority, pay their employees generously, or donate time and
... See moreMartha Beck • Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live
A depression can accompany the realization that what you’ve spent most of your life chasing hasn’t fixed your insecurities and vulnerabilities. More likely, with the stakes and consequences now higher, it has only amplified the pressure.
Rick Rubin • The Creative Act: A Way of Being
When we finally admit this truth to ourselves, we often experience rejection. The things that once served us no longer do. The people who were once our friends no longer resonate. The work we do doesn't fulfill us anymore.
Why? Because we've outgrown this fake and limiting idea that we need to fit in, that there's one right path, that success means... See more
Why? Because we've outgrown this fake and limiting idea that we need to fit in, that there's one right path, that success means... See more
Carolina Wilke • 072:The Business of Being Different: Why Your Weird is Your Power
We know that if we embrace our ideals, we must prove worthy of them. And that scares the hell out of us. What will become of us? We will lose our friends and family, who will no longer recognize us. We will wind up alone, in the cold void of starry space, with nothing and no one to hold on to.