Stepping slightly out of that comfort zone just enough that you can feel the stress response without feeling overwhelmed.

Courage comes first, confidence comes second.

It’s that feeling of energy and momentum you get once you have started something and your brain and body start to rise to the challenge for you.

Turning towards gratitude:

we can re-learn a new internal dialogue that serves us better.

What would that look like? What would you do differently? What would you say yes to? What would you say no to? What would you work harder on? What would you let go of? How would you speak to yourself? How would you speak to others?

we can practise tuning into our partner’s bids for connection and attachment needs.

with curiosity and compassion.

Focusing use of language on concrete behaviours rather than global attacks on personality helps to keep everyone cool.